I normally prepare weeknight dinners, but I got home from work a bit later than normal tonight, and W a bit earlier. When she came in I was still snacking on some chips so she did too. We decided to do our movie date tonight, and W asked if the chips were dinner. "Oh, heck no" I said. "I was hoping you would make something" I added with a chuckle... so she did, and it was very good.
As followers know, I've been feeling like I should be initiating more contact with W, and I thought this date would be a perfect opportunity. What kind of guy takes his girl on a date and doesn't touch her? I surely don't want to be that wussy guy. So I figured I'd make my moves, deliberately and confidently, and face the chance that I could get rejected.
Walking from the car to the theater, I put my arm around her. She did not hold me, but did not pull away or flinch either. It was a long walk, and I proudly held her the entire time, with a big smile on my face. "Look world, I'm holding my sweetheart!"
Over the last year, I've had a few moments were I wondered if I still felt attracted to W. On this walk I had firm evidence that I did!
Once seated in the theater, I held her hand and massaged it for a bit. It felt wonderful. I took T2's advice and held back on the popcorn tub trick.
I held W again on the way out, and then on the ride home I placed my hand on her knee for a minute... again she accepted it. She also thanked me for taking her to the movie.
There's still too much dead time between us for my liking, but the talk we did have was pleasant, even if it was mostly small stuff. I want to talk about the future, and big dreams!
When we got home W started talking about work, how she needs to go in to work this weekend for at least 3-4 hours, and how she "hates people". I just listened and let the "hates people" comment go. Then later, when we were preparing for bed, I thanked her for a nice night together, hugged her, and told her that I wanted her to know that "some people love you". I then seen an oh so cute smile of pleasure on her face.
Overall I'd say it was a great night, and that we are progressing nicely, even if it does seem a bit slow for me.
Oh, and sorry Wonka, I'm happy to update you, but you're not the one I want to de-brief.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
