One more thing Mach, I do understand that she wants out of her marriage and that is her choice and I really don't hate her for that. If it was just that and she was still being a mother and could be trusted to actually tell the truth, not sneck around behind my back and hide that she is doing the very things she was so worried I would do at the start we could do this in a decent way that minimizes the hurt and limits the damage to the kids.
Instead I get her saying crazy stuff like D doesn't hurt kids, we all hurt our kids, they will get over it, etc. Now my D tells me after 25 years of her telling me how much she hated going to see her father in the summer, how uncomfortable she felt around him, etc. that it wasn't that. What bothered her was her mom would be "upset" when she came home. She has started blaming her mother who really was victimized by this man for why her childhood was so bad! Her mom has been so nice to her, so supportive over the years, raised her and her brother alone with no child support now she is being made into the bad guy!
I guess my W doesn't like that her mom doesn't think she is acting right. Has told her she at least needs to try to do something to save her marriage so I guess that makes her "bad" in my W's eyes.
I guess what I'm saying is I don't like she is breaking her marriage vows and not even willing to try to save her M. It's more the total personality change when I never would have had kids with someone who really has no values or morals.
