Luvcats,
As all the DBers say - PATIENCE - he loves you but he is still devastated by your affair. I don't think he will go through with the divorce. Again, from my perspective, showing remorse and responsibility for your actions will help. Affairs generally do happen when there is something lacking in the marriage but the person who has the affair has a choice in the actions they take. You need to let your H know that you made the wrong choice and you are sincerely sorry. I only hope someone takes a 2x4 to him so he can get over his anger and realize he is married to a beautiful, wonderful woman who loves him...