I know I just have a few words you give, but she seems very self centered. Has she said anything about how "you" have been affected by her actions?

She is feeling sorry for herself, very sorry, and wants to blame you for her misery. That's why she gets angry at you, don't you think?

I don"t see anything wrong with what you are doing. She made all these decisions and now she"s left the results.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!