My W and I see each other 1 - 2 times a week and ML at least one of the times. From my place (betrayed) it is always an amazing connection and reminds me of the intimacy that we share. I do have to let go of images of the OP but that hasn't been too difficult. I guess also since the end of the A was so recent, I am still on my best behavior, not wanting to push her back into it. Our sitches are a little different in that I want to get back together but am still not trusting the A is really over. Your H knows that it is over and no longer has to worry that you may start back up.....