Luvcats, He sounds confused and that filing for D will give him the power to hurt you as you have hurt him. It also allows him to take back his power. I don't think he really wants a divorce and is waffling. It's possible that if you go along with it while making it clear that you love him and accept responsibility for the A but will go thru with it if that's what he really wants he may change his mind. Let him know that you would prefer to remain married to him. I think he may change his tune. He is still angry and hurt but it is clear that he still loves you.
