I read your posts and well am encouraged about mediation. I will be doing this in the next month or so. Spouse is a runaway not WAS, only 6 months married and 4 yrs. together. Anyway, be prepared for anything. I am. Most of the time when you do apply DBing, you have self healing and growth. The S hasn't done anything but run and well when they stop, there is often an awakening. I also think my H (most likely exH) is one of the few who won't come back. I've had other R that did many times. So, be prepared to gently tell her in a caring way, no go, which is what I hear from you. I wish you well and pray for you to grow more.
