Thanks Mach, you're right about burning myself out. I guess I thought since she was the one who wanted to "talk" 2 weeks ago and she started with not having been to lawyer and no plans to do so, I really didn't think she could lie so boldly or even want to. What is she gaining by ditching our D at an important moment in her life? What does she gain by lying about the lawyer? I guess she just wouldn't have told me she went if she didn't need to explain why she bugged out of event?
D told me today that she accused me of trying to influence her to not wanting to go to see her father. She said she told her that I never have and that she came to me because she didn't think she would listen. By the way, 10 min. before the end my W and FIL showed up at D's grad. I had to shake his hand but thankfully we were in public and I didn't have to talk to him. After, I took pictures with my D and she wanted to see her mom but when we tried to find her she had left without saying good-bye. I texted to try and find her and she said it was too crowded so she just left. The only parent who did but that's par for the course.
Once again I'm going out to lunch with all the parents and kids in her class (there are only 8 of them) and once again I'm the only dad alone. You're right, I need to stop burning over this or I'll burn myself out. My W wants her father to be a good person so bad and will hate me the more I let her know I think he is a scum bag. I think she throws him in my face hoping I'll react. She is so like a teenager who is rebelling from her parent when she is around him but I'm the parent and he is like the guy who she wants to run away with! I need to look at and deal with her this way and I'll be much better off.
The good part of this is that I now know for certain that I can't believe a word she says so I no longer will trust anything she says. Good to know but hard to deal with!
