Do you know why I asked you that question?
You said "...He brought up divorce a year and half ago and moved to our extra bedroom. When he brought up the D, we had a problem sexually early in our marriage since his been diagnosed with ED. I dont know during the time when our marriage was still OK if he what he had been doing. I checked the incubation period of the virus it goes inside when the last time when were still active..."

I've been here before. Think about this and come up with the logical answer to why you concluded he has a medical condition that makes him not be able to perform with you.