Forgiven lazy husband - reconcilliation possible?

[rayzzz]

So my story,
no affair or anything, my wife after an awkward six months when she said she was no longer in love with me finally said she does not respect me because I have never looked after her and our three kids well. She has always had to quietly take a 2nd job just to make ends meet. I would be a teenager and just work p/t and think thats good enough for me i am "providing". Well when she said I am leaving you, thats when i finally REALLY heard her and am making all these steps from being a stay home dad this past year ( she agrees i am a great Dad) to work f/t...but is that enough? She says she already considers us divorce, did not want me to comfort her at all when two deaths at work and in her family (grama) happened and then she did not want to celebrate our 14yr anniversary three days ago. ...most hellish worst day of my life...like not celebrating a birthday, in such agony.
Well reading DB and implimenting some 180s but will that just make it worse? We are separating next month and basically live separate lives in our house looking after the kids...the 8 yr old girl is catching on and asking questions (we never fight in front of them r really fight at all) She did say two months ago "there is a 5% chance we can save this marriage if I see you change from afar" I am terrible with money too so that is also contributing and being sorted but I just need some hope. I have worked f/t in the past but just got lazy...I am getting counseling , changing myself cause i hate myself for not manning up and seeing this before and putting 200% but she is just done and she did not communicate to me loud enough and wont event got counseling. any help is really appreciated