snsouth, How odd that I saw this post! I have been away from the BB for awhile, and I was just "checking up" on a few people while doing some other computer work. Guess I was meant to see this. Anyway- You have been through a lot, and I would recommend living apart until you make some headway in counseling. Find yourself a good SB Counselor, and take it from there. Then you will know if you are truly ready to try this again. I said what I did because it was (is) very difficult to be living together but not 100% sure of the future of the marriage. Even when you say you want to work it out, there is a lot of hard work to be done, and you may find yourself having lots of doubts. You're not in quite the same sitch as my H and I, as both of you are wanting to save your marriage. When my H moved back in, he still was not sure of what he wanted. It was more a matter of wanting to be with the kids. Even so, I recommend that you do take it slow, especially since this is what your wife wants. I really hope you will begin counseling. There is a reason that she did what she did, and you need to get to the bottom of that.
I don't know if I have said it on this thread...but I highly recommend the book "The 5 Love Languages" by Chapman. This, and the DB book (of course) helped me understand a lot of things.
