__________________________________________________________ When I was in the middle of it, I couldn't see this. But, I can tell you that when my H came home, I realized it was still too soon, and that he should have stayed away longer. ___________________________________________________________
Why was it too soon? My W and I have been separated since December due to her having an EA for over a year and leading to a PA after our separation. I was the one who moved out as a LRT (although I didn't know it at the time). We had been together 16 years and have a D3. We spent the holidays separately and I have had very little contact except about our D who we are sharing custody. A month ago, W started dropping comments about wanting to rebuild our relationship and I said I am not going to spend any time with you until the A is over. She told me last week that she had ended it and now we are seeing each other. We had dinner on Thursday and again last night. I wound up spending the night. We are seeing each other again on Saturday to celebrate her birthday. She is saying we need to take it slow and I agreed. I need time to trust her and that the A is really over. My question is - how slow? How do you know when it's right to go back????? Thanks, SN
