Hang in there. You have had some good communication, esp the ML.
Quote: Yes,I have read several books on affairs...I fit alot of the criteria.I had a "life crises event"(my son) my H and didn't communicate well and stopped doing things together..I wish I would have seen the signs back then! I haven't posted in awhile because my H has been here everynight!(cuts into my computer time!) we have ML twice..What is happening here?? He tells me he wants a D last week and now he is relaxed.. Last night he did say he wants us to talk this week so I think he is moving forward with his plans.. I had a phone consul with Vernetta..She said he is like a bungee cord..He will get close to me then pull back for a few days..
Stay focused on you and keep using whatever DB techniques that work. Look for the small positive reactions. I know how you feel, my W is pushing me to sign and I don't want too. I know that I will have too soon. We had our talk this weekend and she admitted to the PA with her ex-bf. I didn't think a person could hurt as badly as I do right now.
Be patient and validate. I know it's the last thing you want to do but try. THe D will take a long time so there is still hope. Don't do anything that would cause a backslide. Try to stay positve and YOU will get through this. Stay focused and come here as much as you need for support!
