Got home and H helped me move a sleeper sofa upstairs into the guest room. I had bought this before he filed. He had been sleeping on an old mattress in there that I am getting rid of. It was mine prior to marriage, and I don't want or need it. He didn't mention wanting it either, until I had already "donated" it to someone who will scrap the springs inside. Oh well, he can buy a new one.
I told him I didn't care if he used the bed to sleep on, just throw some sheets on it. I then went and put together another garage shelf, and started cleaning the garage. This is something I have been wanting to do for a long while. I let H watch the baby and started on it. I got a lot done before I realized it was late and I still had to put the kidlet to bed and go to the store.
Put baby down, and H asked me if I would pick up something for him at the store and he would "split it" with me. I told him if he wanted groceries from now until he moved out, he could ask me and I'd let him know if I could pick things up or not. He said he would appreciate it. I then said "so...when are you moving out again?"
Probably wasn't the best idea. He said "for sure" first week in June. I said ok...well just as a heads up, my attorney filed the answer to the petition today as well. You will be getting a copy. It's just standard paperwork.
Both these things set him off. He became agitated. Told me his apartment "wouldn't be ready" until June 6, even though I know they have apartments ready now. Said he also "didn't get" the one bedroom...not sure why he feels the need to lie.
Anyhow, I just kept saying ok, that's fine, I understand etc. Well, he was still ticked. I decided that was a good time to leave and went to the store, got some stuff and came back. H was snoozing, but woke up to help me with groceries. I told him I'd put them all away, as I was going to be reorganizing the pantry anyhow.
I picked up one of the rotisserie chickens for dinner. H cut it up, then sat down at the table to eat versus going upstairs. I continued cleaning and putting things away, then started on bottles. He was done when I sat down, but continued to sit there. I didn't say anything, as I was reading a book on my kindle. I figured if he wanted to talk, he could start the conversation. I laughed at a part in the book, and he asked me why it was funny. I explained, but other than that didn't say anything. He then took trash out, cleaned up kitchen and said he was going to bed. I said goodnight, and stayed downstairs. I didn't go to yoga last night as I was beat by the time I was done with dinner, and it was 1000 - when I'd have to leave to get there.
This AM, H came down to tell me that the baby was about to wake up, and he was about to get in the shower. I asked him to get her and change her so I could finish getting ready, and then I'd come and dress her and take her next door. As he was about to get in the shower, he said "well if I don't see you later, I hope you have a good day." I thanked him and wished him the same.
Needless to say, I'm THOROUGHLY confused but continuing to DB and GAL. Tonight a friend is coming over in the evening to help me with the two TONS of dry stack for the flowerbeds. I have it started, I just hope she and I can get it finished tonight. I also setup an appointment for solar screens to be installed, and ordered a new bed! H never did want to decorate the house saying it was "pointless" so I decided I am going to do it, and he will have no say.
Project wise, I'm at my max. Next week, going to order the fill materials and get the bobcat driver in to grade the area for the patio. I will probably start laying stones little by little at night as soon as that is complete.
ETA: I forgot my laptop this morning. I got all the way to work, when I realized I didn't have it. I live 34 miles away. I called H to see if he was still at the house and could meet me, as he would be headed this way. He was, and brought my laptop to me saving me another 30 minutes of driving. I thanked him and went on about my business.
Unfortunately, the pessimist in me is still waiting on the next bomb to drop.
Last edited by LongRoad06; 05/16/1403:30 PM.
Me- 29 H - 36 T - 5y M - 2y D - 11 months BD#1 June 2013 BD#2 H files 10/28/13 Retrouvaille Nov 13 BD #3 H Files 2nd time 4/22/14 Fires L 7 days later. No court dates set Supposedly he's moving out?
