Reading your thread is really inspirational! You hone in on the positives, push things along gently but don't lose sight of your goals. I can definitely learn some things from following your sitch!
And thank you for continuing to check in on mine. The positive reinforcement is greatly appreciated!
Me 41 H 40 M 20 T 23 S 19,16, 8 D 13 BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015 Life is about daring greatly, about being in the arena- Brene Brown
My goodness, it must be so stressful to worry about your wife' wellbeing and safety while dealing with your own emotions and stress as well. You're so strong - a true inspiration!
A big hug.
Me: 26, BF: 33, R: 9yrs Bomb dropped April 17th 2014 Currently No Contact
Thank you UR, Coming from you this really means a lot to me!
Wonkers: I'm not sure where you are kissing me, but if it's bald I can assure you it's not my head!
daring: Thank you also for the kind words. I am truly honored to know that I have helped you in some way.
Italian: Thanks for the hug! Dealing with my emotions can sometimes be a struggle, (for brief periods) but I honestly do not worry about my W's wellbeing any more than I would have prior to crises. She is doing very well, I'd say.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
The comfort level between W and I seems to continue to increase.
A few nights ago W told me she was going to see the OW!
I quickly thought… wait a minute, I don’t have any OW. Maybe this was her BFF’s BF’s OW she’s referring to? So I asked her “Who’s the OW?”
She replies, “IDK, some women who find out their man is cheating on them, so they band together and gang up on him to teach him a lesson.” “Remember, I said some of the girls from work and I were going to a movie this week?”
Oh… The Other Woman! “Great”, I say, “Don’t get sick on the popcorn!”
When W came home from the movie, she gave me a complete update. She enjoyed it, but confessed she would have preferred to see Hotel Budapest, but got out voted by the other girls.
So I decided to ask W out to see Budapest this weekend and she accepted. Neither W nor I are big movie goers or watchers. My plan is to sneak in some hand holding and snuggling moves on her. Advice from the ladies regarding this is more than welcome! Wish me luck!
I had a big load of mulch dumped in our driveway. Weeding the garden beds and distributing the mulch will be W and my team project for the next few days.
I’ve been reading “Getting the Love You Want” by Harville Hendrix. Very interesting information on how our specific love needs developed, why we choose our partners, how and why we end up in a "power struggle" and how to build and maintain a loving relationship. Great read.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
A Movie date? Like, teens? Giggling and laughing at other people and such?
Hehe...
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
Have fun at the movies! I used to love it when my H would hold my hand while walking through parking lots and in the theater he'd rest his hand on my leg. That's just me though. Have a great time!
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs
We still live together and do stuff together, but somehow this movie date seems different. Plus I've been getting good vibes as of late so... Who knows what'll happen.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
Advice from the ladies regarding this is more than welcome! Wish me luck!