Welcome mbrando. Sorry you find yourself here, but keep posting.
Have you read DR/DB yet? Have you read the 37 rules in the Newcomers section? That's the starting point.
As far as convincing your W to go to counseling, I don't think that's the way to go. If she's not interested in going, she'll more than likely use it as a springboard to leave. Be careful there.
Regarding space, I don't think I'd leave the MBR (nor the house). If she feels she needs more space, let her move out of the MBR.
So what were the problems in the marriage? What were your W's complaints? What are the things you don't like about your role in the M? What are the things you are working on?
