Wife in MLC and getting ready to go #2

[TL72*]

LOL, i'm sorry to laugh Matt but that was quite a visual on your last statement. ew.
Before my H moved out and after I read DB, we had zero R talks. I simply did my normal routine and did not bring it up. I did not start any conversations. I just let him talk when he wanted to and he did talk but it was never about us.I smiled and stayed positive and GAL. He was simply done and I let him go. That's what he wanted, it didn't matter what I wanted and it only pressured him if I said anything about that. I came home every day to a house that was full of anger or moodiness.I never knew what it would be like that night so I just kept the peace, we had no fighting at all and I stopped doing things for him other than making dinner and doing laundry. I started living my life as if he would never come back and he probably never will. What i'm getting at is that if you're "done" with her - let her go. If she wants to file, just stand aside and let her do the work. If she wants to move out, good - it will give you the space and time to heal. When I got my dissolution papers I simply read them and pointed out the changes (he was willing to do anything just to divorce me since i'm apparently the cause of every bad thing that has ever happened in this world) so he had the changes made and I had them reviewed by a lawyer and signed them on the spot. God knows I did not want this divorce, I did not want him to move out but after reading all the sitches here I know I'm lucky he left. I still hope one day he'll come through this, I still love him, but until then - it is so nice to come home and not have to deal with his moods or outbursts or tantrums or snoring, the list goes on and on. At the time of course I would have put up with anything if he'd stay, but now ... not so much. You'll grow stronger and in your own time you'll one day drop the rope and let it run its course. She'll always be part of your life - but right now take care of you and your D.