I'd like to weigh in on the forced counseling issue as well. My wife reluctantly went to joint counseling, and even a weekend marriage "emergency room" treatment. Her heart was never in it, she had already planned her escape.
I suggest you go to counseling, and learn how it only takes one to change the relationship. Please forget the notion right now that counseling will change anything. I thought the same thing, and thought the sessions were providing "breakthroughs" but as others have noted, this will only give her the opportunity to say "I tried everything!"
Control what you can, which is you. Work on becoming the best you that you can be. What initially attracted your W to you? Are you that same person? What actionable steps can you take to find yourself again?
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
