To pleasehelpme..Men have enormous pride issues,and that theme kept popping into my head as I read your post. Did you ever find out why you were having pain during sex? Did you two talk about it? Men like to think they are Don Juan and when that ego gets a blow they will do anything to pump it up..DO you blame your pain for him looking online for sex? Can you go to C even if he won't? Hang in there..