Here is everything I could find in your postings about your role in R problems. Yes, A is a major issue and has to be addressed with boundaries etc. But getting past A and addressing fundamental issues in M will be key in starting something new. Wouldn't it help to go into some detail on your role in this?
"I share lots of blame for it ever having gotten this far.
What I want and think that I can reasonably expect is a new foundation for our marriage ,stripped of lies and deceit.
I am working on me ,and I know what my role is/was in all of this.
I am well aware of my shortcomings and am making steps to correct them.
The reasons she gave me as to why are that I took out a loan she didn't know about to pay off a purchase that I tried to keep hidden because it was dumb and I knew it.Also because we didn't do a big vacation last year.
I'm not dumb and I have hurt her in the past
15 years ago and later my drinking caused me to get in trouble and caused her unnecessary stress and heartache. This is a large part of our problem , even though she has complemented me on many occasions that she was proud of how well I have been doing.
I do believe it's a sickness on her part that I share a lot of blame for but how does it get to this point?
She can push my buttons"
me: 45 W:45 M 20 years T 22 years S14, S13, S11, D9 BD 2/28/14 D papers served 3/3/14 I moved out 3/15/14 MC start 4/2/14 I moved in 6/2/14 D suit withdrawn 6/30/14
