I was the betrayer..

[sage]

Sage..You must have crystal ball because that paragraph you wrote about my H thinking Divorce will " cure him" and ease his pain are right on. We did have out talk and he was crying, and yes he said he is divorcing me..I have an appt. with an attorney this week. I am agreeing to everything..telling him he can be at home as much as he wants(we have 2 kids)..so he is relaxed and happy now and he actually spent the night here instead of going to his apt.
I did have some moments of anger today but I am trying to diffuse them immediately..

Unfortunately, I didn't need a crystal ball...just had to remember how I felt in my darkest moments after finding out about h's a.

Do you see the wonderful babystep in your above paragraph? AND, how with your acceptance and love of him you've created an environment where he can just BE...? I'm hoping that you'll continue to DB...'cause this sounds like you're going to have lots of great contact and opportunity with h.

Sage