OK, so you sit him down and tell him how you envision your future together then ask him to think about it and set a date to discuss it again. Don't even ask for an immediate reaction, guys tend not respond well to being put on the spot for an answer to something they haven't had time to think about...which is why he's silent and then leaves the room. Also realize, your fear is not necessarily reality. He may indeed not want what you want but that doesn't mean you have to make some unilateral decision right then and there. You gather info and decide whether life with him is better than life without him. Doing it has to be easier than obsessing about it year after year! That's so draining.
