Sage..You must have crystal ball because that paragraph you wrote about my H thinking Divorce will " cure him" and ease his pain are right on. We did have out talk and he was crying, and yes he said he is divorcing me..I have an appt. with an attorney this week. I am agreeing to everything..telling him he can be at home as much as he wants(we have 2 kids)..so he is relaxed and happy now and he actually spent the night here instead of going to his apt. I did have some moments of anger today but I am trying to diffuse them immediately..
As for NoD hang in there..my OM had a child (from a previous relationship)when we lived together.I was very attached to her..SO when he called me 10yrs later he said his daughter wanted to see me..Now I realise it was that he was going through a difficult time.I also noticed he would call me when he was under pressure in his marriage.I felt very emotionally responsible..I knew very intimate details of his life that no else knew (that's the sucked in part)and I felt like I was the only one he could talk to. We were friends for a year then it turned into an A..for 2 yrs..but sometimes we would go weeks without talking to each other.
Now I realise how dangerous it is to have past loves contact you..I have had 2 ex's from college contact me in the last few years..they must be having a MLC or having problems in their marriage..I refused to contact them back.
