Dealing with an ongoing affair

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I was speaking to W today. She’s angry that I have the leisure and time to read and watch movies and think about life and work on myself. She claims she doesn’t have the time or freedom to do these activities. I know she watches a lot of YouTube movies and Netflix, but she says her mind it to overwhelmed to read, to knit or to think about self-work. She blames me for putting her in this position. I don’t accept the blame – I just acknowledge her feelings.
She asked me if I told my IC about her feelings of shame and dishonouring herself, and I said I did and that the IC is concerned about her. I may suggest to her today for her to contact the IC to set up a session. I think it would be a good time for her to start some therapy.
Then she came by the house this afternoon. I cooked her lunch while she marinated the steaks for tomorrow's BBQ I planned. Then she worked out and we did a few things around the house. We hugged for a full minute before she left. She said she may try to get the afternoon staff at the RH to do the night shift so she can come back home and cook me dinner. We're enjoying time together again but I still need a definitive answer that the A is over completely. She sais it was, but I think it's time to ask for proof. Open up her phone to me. I hate to put a damper on a potentially good evening, but I may have to look at the long term results and put off the short term pleasures.