Luvcats...sorry that you find yourself here on the boards...I admire your willingness to be unfront with your infidelity and also your wilingness to help some of us (the BSes) understand a bit more.
She had an affair (hmmm...an EA? Can't remember) and struggled to regain her h's trust. He was adamant about wanting a D.
Anyway...I'll flip to the last slide...thru hard work on both sides and awesome DB'ing they have reunited and are TRULY, TRULY a success story. You may find some insights and suggestions in her thread.
Best of luck...and please remember (I know you will) that if h suggests a D it's very likely his way of ending the pain that he feels...what he may not know right now is that it WON'T...only time and hard work will do that...but for him, it may seem like the only or best way out. Your challenge is to stand bravely in the face of that...and to rally yourself to still seek to mend the trust between you...even in the presence of his ambiguity.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
