I totally agree, if I was dealing with someone who was a little rational. My ex goes bonkers when she wants to be mad at me. I've been doing a really good job of not engaging her for the past few weeks. Trouble is, in her twisted mind that gives her reason to think I'm being rude and it builds up in her til she explodes(today).
I find if I just let her spew and I keep as calm as possible that works best. Except my bro told me I should maybe show a bit of backbone and say things firmly with a few fbombs of my own. I tried that approach this morning and it seemed to not escalate things. I had to use "freakin" instead of fbombing.
The thing about driving her. I absolutely have no problem being kind to her. I've said this before that I've brainwashed myself with mother Teresa's quote about being kind anyway. I have been making conscious choices about limiting my fun, humorous side during texting. That comes across as rude though. Yikes!
She still thinks I have feelings for her and that hanging out would hurt me. She has no clue that I still have feelings for "my" girl, not this imposter. I have no desire to hang out with this person. Doing family things is completely different. I focus on my son. We haven't done anything family oriented in several weeks so that helps with not seeing her. I think by me saying I'm dating, would help her remove the thought I'm still hung up on her.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
