Ok so she unfriended me on FB, and my cousin text me and asks why some guy posted a pic of a selfie they took together on FB. I am so enraged right now. I'm going to act like I have no clue to her, but I really feel like my marriage is beyond any hope at all at this point so idk what to do.
I guess just focus on me and the kids. I'm going to meet with the lawyer on Monday and try to get a temporary custody agreement to get custody of the kids. Which will piss her off and pretty much cement our marriage being over for good, but I have to do what's best for my children and me.
I need advice.
Me-33,W-26 M-4 yrs, T-5 years S- 2 D- 4 (Special needs, undiagnosed) Apr 2014 B date End of April 2014 Moved in with parent's
Why? You knew about OM. She just took it a level up by placing it on FB. But does she think that unfriending you keeps you in the dark? See how illogical the WAW'S mind works?
If you can't get custody of the kids, ask lawyer about getting a RO on the OM being around them.
Just try to lay low till you talk to lawyer. Don't communicate with her while you are so upset.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I guess to me by doing it on FB now her whole family knows and my whole family knows so it feels like it's past the point of no return. So no matter how hard I work our life together is over. Now I really am just changing for me and my future. Gotta be the best dad/person I can be.
Me-33,W-26 M-4 yrs, T-5 years S- 2 D- 4 (Special needs, undiagnosed) Apr 2014 B date End of April 2014 Moved in with parent's
Hi DB, so today I'm in a good place emotionally. After a lot of prayer last night and a lot of thinking I've decided to just let it go. Our marriage wasn't healthy and neither of us were very nice people. She's currently living in sin, but I can't control that. I've decided to let it go and move on with my life. I'm going to take this time to focus on developing myself into the person version of me that I can be, and taking care of my kids and making sure they know how loved they are. In my heart I've chosen to forgive her, and let her walk her own path wherever that may lead her. I'll remain friendly and cordial, but keep conversations focused on our children only and any financial issues. If she ever comes to me asking for forgiveness or even a possible reconciliation she'll recieve no anger from me at how this played out, and I'll grant her the forgiveness she asks. As for a future together who knows what the future holds, but it won't happen unless there's a radical change in both of us. I can't help her, but I can help me and that's what I'm going to do. Thank you all so much for helping me through my major emotional issues, and I'm sure I'll need plenty more advice in the future, but for now I'm feeling at peace.
Me-33,W-26 M-4 yrs, T-5 years S- 2 D- 4 (Special needs, undiagnosed) Apr 2014 B date End of April 2014 Moved in with parent's
That's a good attitude Corbean. Buy expect hills and valleys as this all plays out. One minute you will really good, and then a rogue wave will come crashing over you, and then you will bad again. Expect these feelings to happen because they are normal.
I remember when my ExW left and then began an affair I went through the same thing.
I eventually recovered and moved on and guess what... suddenly she came knocking on my door. By that time I was already dating someone and my ExW lost her mind. She even told me she had thoughts of suicide because of what she had done. By then I was already moving on and happy with my new girlfriend.
Like the title of thread says... Fasten your seatbelts.
Knowing my wife I don't know if I ever see her ever admitting she was wrong in this situation. Doesn't matter though I've forgiven her. I don't plan to date again for a very long time though. I've got a lot of personal growth to do before I'll be able to be the type of husband, that the type of woman I would want in my life would deserve. Thanks for the advice though.
Me-33,W-26 M-4 yrs, T-5 years S- 2 D- 4 (Special needs, undiagnosed) Apr 2014 B date End of April 2014 Moved in with parent's
It's good you're communicating here. She's trying to enrage you, so she can feel better about herself. Don't give her any thing to justify that she's doing the correct thing for herself and family. Now, do you feel better? No. And you won't until you change your own behaviors and life. Get busy on yourself and place her in the low priority (except w/kids in healthy way/No bad exposure w/OM) That stupid FB. I was told lawyers love to use it in cases against each other.
