As a WAW in my 1st M I still visited with family and was close for years, but was rebellious with churches and God. I also started running with a wild group of people when I didn't have my kids (and sometimes my kids saw this in me). I was spiritual but blamed Him. It isn't until recently I understand this. I didn't realize until my 2nd H left me after 6 mths. (EA & PA--figure out that?) that I was a WAW. I actually used my 1st H EA & PA as an excuse and reason to run fast rather than WAW. Wow. This DBing can help all of us. 21 years is a long journey and remarrying after the journey to find out who I am and what I did getting here. It does take both H & W to get together and allow the other WAS to go on this journey. You men and wives need to somehow (for your family) let go in a loving way and somehow she/he needs to realize through C or DBing or reading (whatever works for her) that the family is important. My three boys I'm sure suffered and my ex remarried 1.5 years after the ink dried and harassed me in the legal system for 6 yrs. I know he was really angry with me and well his W of 12/13 yrs. is a handful and it's not much different for him. Really. Concentrate on this and save your families.
