PamelaC / Luvcats08, If I did it right, above is a link to my story. As you can see, my W and I are separated so we have limited contact these days. This makes it very difficult to meet any of her needs. I've made a point of not initiating any contact with her. I only call the house when she has my sons and I want to tell them goodnight.
A friend of ours told me that she did seem agitated when she thought that I had a date for Valentine's. It didn't stop her from going out with OM. In fact, she brought him with her to pick up the kids at her parents house. How can I compete with someone that has the luxury of "new love" when I can't even communicate with her? I want to hold on and continue to hope but it is soo hard sometimes.
I know that you didn't come her to give advice to all of us left behinds but from your perspective is there anything that I can do or not do to improve my situation? I fear that she is too far gone to even remember that we were ever married. BTW, today is our 19th anniversary and I have a hunch that she will be spending the day with him since the kids are out of school and she's taking them to Disney. I'm sure that OM and his kid will be going with them. Just a wonderful day all around.
