So I messed up and checked her FB, couldn't help myself.
I am thinking that you could help yourself. It's easier to say that you couldn't....yes ???
Realize that the ONLY person that you are hurting when you look/snoop, is yourself.
And IF you can handle that hurt, then feel free to do so. Although I am fairly sure that you don't want that hurt in your life...
Originally Posted By: Thornton
I agree with you but it's really hard to implement.
Originally Posted By: Thornton
It does logically. But my emotions are telling me she is "out there" meeting new people and if I'm honest, men.
Let me share this with you....
Right now, and what the others are telling you to do, is to find a way of not focusing on what she is doing, thinking, jogging with, etc....
GAL is a way of getting out there, getting fresh air, and starting to live your life again.
Once that you start living your life again, you will find that it becomes easier to not focus on what she is doing. You will be too busy doing your own thing to notice.
Your logic vs. emotion thing....
I would say that you are correct with that, and on the right path with that line of thinking. I would also bet that in your normal life ( before B day), that you didn't think about logic vs. emotion a whole lot. Logic was the norm, and emotion was on the back burner....yes ???
Post B day, your life will NEVER be the same, because your eyes have opened now, and although logic will once again prevail, you will always be aware of your emotional level too....
The key is to stop REACTING from your newly found emotional fortress, and act from your logical side, that is aware of your emotional side....
Make sense ??? I hope so : )
And now....back to your "buts"
Buts are just excuses that keep you trapped in old behavioral patterns. Every time I see the word but, what I see is an excuse to slip into those patterns, and it de-qualifies anything previous to it.
I would be thin BUT for the doughnuts...
I would stop smoking BUT they relax me...
So....
I wouldn't have raised that 2x4, BUT you asked for it....
