Thank you Pamala C for your post..I was crying as I read it!!I am trying to be patient but I am getting scared..He wants to have a talk this week and I am expecting the worst..So I am really supposed to AGREE when he says he wants a divorce??
He did give me a nice Valentine card and then I felt like I screwed up again when I did not give him one( He told me NOT to get him anything)So I am trying to be patient and happy and not bring up anything(serious talk)
AS for Tpa DAD so your wife does not know you know about her affair? Wow..you must be a great actor..also I can't imagine the pain you feel and hard it must be to see her everyday? Yes it's true..she is getting some need met by this OP now..So I guess it's up to you to figure what it is without being too obvious. But she definitely is unhappy inside and this affair is keeping her from facing her real problems. An affair is like a drug..you get addicted..you get sucked into this other persons life who isn't getting their needs met either..and then when you try to stop and not call..then you have to face your problems again.So it is easier to stay in fantasy land with your OP.
Lat night CNN had a program on infidelity (2-14). Very interesting..I wish my H would have watched it. THe 2 couples in the show repaired their marriages..very slowly. So Tpadad please write again..
