If she has OM then you'd better totally cut her off and not even mention or act like you're interested in R stuff. You're wanting to play the cat and mouse game and she'll probably play and then go back to OM and do the same. This is the way it is. This isn't something everybody is telling you to do, because we're not sure. You'd better copy Sandi's list and practice reading it and acting it. Try no contact for a few days and keep it business like other DBers are trying to do and share with you. You're setting yourself up for her to think it's okay to have the OM and her family too.
