just hangin around....

[dingo]

Had some strange things happen over the past few days. The first anniversary of my MIL's passing was on Mother's day so I sent my wife a simple text saying that I was thinking about her and her family and that I hoped they had a good memorial service. I wasn't really looking for a particular response from her and didn't expect anything other than perhaps a 'thanks we had a good day' or something along those lines.

She called later that day and we spoke for a while about how the day went, how her family was doing and then had some general friendly discussion. No R talk, no tense topics and it was pretty easy to get back into the old rhythm. I initiated the end of the call.

It was a little setback in terms of my detachment but I was willing to accept that under the circumstances. I care about her family too and I really was sympathizing with them for their loss during the day.

Later in the day, I noticed that she had changed her facebook cover page to a picture of her family that had been taken a bit prior to her mom's death. I was with her in that picture along with her sisters' significant others....

This is where things get a little strange. After a day of NC on monday, she sent me an email saying that she had gone rock climbing on tuesday and met someone who was looking for a partner to climb with this weekend. As she has a baby shower to attend out of town this weekend, she told him that I might be interested. So she forwarded me an email from him with his contact info and after a few emails back and forth, it was apparent that she had made a lot of very strange comments to this man (he is well older than either of us and married so I don't necessarily think of him as a threat or another potential OM).

He knew I was her husband, knew all about many of the activities we enjoy doing together, all about our rock climbing history, our backpacking and hiking trips together, etc. He commented that he thought she and I had a lot of interesting experiences - all through email on which she was included.

So he and I arranged to meet at the gym today and she indicated that she was going as well. This other person invited us to go outdoor climbing sometime with him and his wife and my wife said it would be great for all of us to go together.

Bizarre behavior - i don't even know why she mentioned me to this person originally or told him that she was married...

I haven't asked her a single question about any of this. The email exchanges weren't written in such a way that would make it obvious that she and i were separated or otherwise weren't talking on a daily basis. I plan to meet this other person tonight to climb - for legitimate reasons. I am genuinely interested in finding new people to do these kinds of activities with. I don't intend to report back to her on it (she is now not coming tonight because her shoulder is bothering her from the last time).

anyway - just looking for a little insight from folks outside my situation.

Thanks guys.