Quote: A person only has an affair if they are feeling very misrable inside. They somehow think this OP is going to make all the bad go away in their life..they don't think rationally..they only see your negatives and block out the positives.I convinced my self that my H didn't love me anymore( which I found out later was not the case)Your mind plays tricks on you and you do not think clearly. When i was in my affair I wish I could have gotten a swift kick in the head ,wake up!!
Luvcats-- thanks for the perspective! It helps to reaffirm what we try to keep reminding ourselves of here as the ones whose spouses have or are still with OP!
Hope you are able to reconcile with your H--read the books--it sounds like you have something to start with...if you can get your H to read books on affairs--particularly "after the affair" may be of use to him!
