So journal improvements; Down 31 pounds this started late Jan before my suspicions were aroused. Drinking really cut down , this has a lot to do with the first point and I was doing it before because I knew it was important to her and it was/is something I wanted to do for me too. Don't misread this , on days off working in the yard or doing honeydoos I would drink beer and sometimes it was more than I intended. I was never belligerent, abusive or moping ,the worst was that I thought I was funnier than I actually was. 15 years ago and later my drinking caused me to get in trouble and caused her unnecessary stress and heartache. This is a large part of our problem , even though she has complemented me on many occasions that she was proud of how well I have been doing. Clean shaven and nice clothes daily. Make the bed every day , something I never thought about before. Happy and cheerful around her nothing negative or cynical. Redoubled relationship with S , never been a problem ,we've always been best buddies. Completing unfinished projects. Accountable for all my expenditures. Used to not keep reciepts. No couch potato. Give advice when asked about diet and workout...my idea to involve her 10+ years ago. When she talks to me I listen intently, eyes squarely trained on hers. I don't pursue or spy, I don't need to. If she has something to say she'll tell me when she's ready , anyway if she can't be honest with herself there is no way she will be honest with me. I still have lots of room for improvement, and some 180 s to do. I switched shifts at work to be able to spend more time together, a choice I made before I knew but it just went into effect today. Bad timing. So that's just off of the top of my head ,oh and I read Sandi2's and Mach1 first post to me everyday. So guys, MrBond, have at me i know you mean well and I have been in a bad place the other day. I'm the only one I can do anything about. WAS lie...period I am listening , you've been here you know how hard it is. Thank you all
All of that is great...really ...
Let me ask you this though...
Is all of that something that YOU would do for you ??
Or are they things that you are doing, so that she will notice that you did them ???
