And if that wasn't bad enough, my wife agreed to hold a mediation with D4's bio dad on May 30th. Two problems:

1) I work that day. The last my wife knew I had no roster so she booked it in; and
2) That's my birthday. That really hits home when my birthday is no longer a consideration for her.

I brought both things up with her. Not exactly DB, I know. Her defense to the birthday thing was that she has a bunch of other things on and she forgot. I told her that's something I'll have to take on the chin. I told her that we need to check with each other before agreeing to things with third parties. That one will be a boundary. She's already had the date changed to a date that is suitable to the both of us. Now we wait to have it confirmed or moved again.

Me: 31, W: 29
T: 4 M: 2
Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3)
Separated, still living together: Nov 2013
Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014
W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014