And instead I have to pick up all the pieces again and rehaul my life and my future completely again because he acted like an idiot. The breakup would be bad enough if it was a normal one, but dealing with the lies, the betrayal, the cheating... I don't want to be in this situation. I resent him so much for doing this to me.
Kiss his ass good-bye and thank him for that "gift" as you now see his true colors! If the tough get rough before marriage, babies, mortgage, etc...and HE runs away??!! Is that the kind of guy you want to spend the "rest of your life" with??
What you relay here reminds me of one of my favorite teachers back in 4th grade. She had a long-term BF who was a grad student at a local university. They had been together for approximately 8 to 10 years. He couldn't or wouldn't commit to her. He did his PhD studies in Europe. That "separation" forced my teacher to re-think her priorities and came to the realization that he was not the husband material she wanted. Then ended the relationship. Now? She is now very happily married to her husband of 15 years or so.
Think long and hard about this guy, Italian. Can you really count on him to have your back and being the steady presence for the next 50/60 years?
And for the record, he didn't betray you, but HIMSELF. It is all on him.
LET. HIM. GO.
My thoughts? He isn't in MLC or whatever. He's a lost Peter Pan wanna-be.
