Go back and re-read your text examples you posted on 02/12/14 11:48 PM. Are those typical of your interactions with W? These seemed to be based on emotions and not logic.
And there are so many red flags with the kids. A 6YO gets to decide if they go visit their grandfather? How does this happen? How can a 6YO be expected to make this decision? And early in your sitch you write about how they interrupt conversations with W.
Forget the W and M, YOU need to focus on how to be a father to these kids. Go take a parenting class. Read a book. Something, anything. There is no way a 12YO would say things you've written if there was a healthy relationship there. I don't care what W says to D, D would know that it isn't right if there is structure in place.
me: 45 W:45 M 20 years T 22 years S14, S13, S11, D9 BD 2/28/14 D papers served 3/3/14 I moved out 3/15/14 MC start 4/2/14 I moved in 6/2/14 D suit withdrawn 6/30/14