No change to report with H. He did come over last night to tuck D7 in. He immediately walked into the kitchen and opened a jar of olives from my fridge. Then, he started talking about my leftover pizza (my favorite vegetarian pizza). There was too much leftover for me to eat, so I told him he could have some (what are friends for, right?). It's just a bit odd to me that he still thinks it is ok to start taking things out of the kitchen as if he still lives here.
I talked to a DB coach for the first time today and I do recommend it. She reinforced a lot of what we read here (don't pursue, no R talk, VALIDATE, VALIDATE, VALIDATE. She has encouraged me to work toward maintaining/developing the friendship that H wants because she said that would be a very good building block for R. She gave me some homework to try to put myself in H's place so that I can really develop empathy for him in more than just a superficial way. I'm looking forward to the next session.
After that, I went shopping for accent furniture and decorative items for the family room. My new couch will be delivered Friday. I bought pillows, a cocktail ottoman, and accent tables. I'm really excited about having that room furnished again. Since it has been empty, it has been a constant reminder that H is not here. I think it will be good for me to have my home feeling home-y again
