Ok quick question about my W and the kids. My W asked my D to do something tonight. She delayed doing it like 14 year olds are want to do. W started yelling, D who is angry at W started yelling back. W than asks me for help. For my part, in the past, I would have told my D not to be disrespectful towards her mom. Now, since W doesn't want to be married to me and wants to leave, I just figured I would stay out of it and let her deal. I won't be around much longer so she'd better learn to deal on her own. When my response wasn't good enough for my wife (I calmly asked my D not to yell) my W started getting on my case screaming that I should have done what she was asking her to do. This made no sense since she was just as capable as I and she asked our D to do it.
It all ended with both my W and D yelling and angry. From what I've read on here, it's not my job to facilitate my W's and D's relationship any longer. She wants to be on her own, do things that upset the family and make my D angry at her, than she needs to deal with her and her relationship.
Should I have intervened like I would have in the past? Did I do alright by trying to stay calm and letting her and my D work it out even though my W asked forms to tell her to do it? Any thoughts? It wasn't the way I would have handled it before as I would have told my D to show respect but I'm not so sure the way my W is acting she deserves my D's respect!
