We have a lot of lakes! And San Diego isn't too far away...ditto on beaches in Mexico.
Wwweeelllll, I went to my mediation service at church tonight - I am becoming a regular. I actually quite like it....takes some practice, but I am getting there...I have a very busy mind at it is hard to silence it. So at the end of the service I head to my car, look at the phone, and see the following text from XW's mother:
"Looking to book July 1-10 for (S) to come visit Iowa, but I need your approval Crimson. Please give me a break."
This is on top of the phone call yesterday. I am not going to respond. I have been very clear on the matter with XW and I am getting slightly offended that her mom keeps pushing the issue. Yep, this sux for everyone involved...all people, all families, and our S. Keep in mind that this is the woman that when I called her after XW said she wanted a D she told me basically "Well, after she had S she had realizations that she wanted to be all she could be for him....". And so on. Well, today CRIMSON is having his own set of realizations....and one of them is that it is pretty much time to live the life of a D couple. Which, by the way, I did NOT want to be.....but your daughter did. Granted, I won't say any of that but I sure want to.
Sad thing is, my heart actually DOES hurt for them both. I don't like people I care(d) about not getting the things they want in life especially if it is within my control to make it happen. But I am 100% out of the enabling business.
I would have never learned anything about myself in this process if everything went my way and I got everything I wanted. In fact, NOT getting sh*t that I wanted basically in this process is what motivated me to take a good look at myself, the way I was living, my selfishness and the choices I was making in my M. Hopefully, it will do the same for her one day.
