It's awesome that you are looking forward to counseling! My next session isn't until a week from today(wednesday) and i'm anxious for it.
It's amazing how much better i felt after i let everything out in our second joint session. I should've brought a towel! The individual sessions i've had have been much more helpful and productive and i hope that yours are too.
It does get easier, while mine has not left it does get easier to think about it. At first i was crying at every reminder of her and us. Now while i get sad I don't usually end up crying.
That's awesome that you made plans with your daughter just the two of you and it's something new for you! The excitement will make it even more memorable.
You are doing the right things, just keep at it.
Me 38 Her 38 Daughter 7 Married 11 Together 16 BD 3/21/14 Moved out 3/8/15 D final 3/11/15
it's been 6 weeks since mine said she wanted a divorce, I still wonder if she'll change her mind. Not as often as i used to but it still crosses my mind.
Just stay active! Do different things, i find that if i go to the gym and then go to a jazz club to relax, or a coffee shop I realize that i'm enjoying the music and not thinking about my WAW is doing or thinking.
Me 38 Her 38 Daughter 7 Married 11 Together 16 BD 3/21/14 Moved out 3/8/15 D final 3/11/15
So I messed up and checked her FB, couldn't help myself.
She still has me and her as her profile picture and that she's in relationship with me. I'm not sure how to interpret that?
She also posted pictures of her jogging with a friend. It bummed me out. I'm pining over here, and chatting on Divorcebusting and she seems to be out enjoying herself.
In regards to what her listed as M means, I give you this. My h is on Twitter and rarely on FB. I name dropped him and removed him as my husband. I swear this was not done for reaction (he is so rarely on there), rather I could not stand seeing him pop up as my husband. Was I wrong? I don't know. I did it because it was best for me.
However, I later heard h was furious. He has a gf so I'm not overly concerned with how he views my FB status. He, however, is still listed as married according to his mother. And legally he is. What does it mean for your W? Nothing really. Maybe she hasn't noticed. Maybe she hasn't changed it. Maybe she thinks people who change relationship status look like attention mongers. Spend no energy on the whys or what does this really means? You will drive yourself crazy.
Get out. Go for a walk. Go out with friends. Make friends. Sing in the car. Dance around your living room. Take up a hobby. Clean your car. Laugh so hard you cry. You are going around one time on this planet so you need to enjoy it whether it's with your w or not. Stop focusing on your W.
Hang in there!
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
I agree with you but it's really hard to implement.
There's another picture of her with her girlfriend's running group. She's surrounded by fit, good looking men. I am in total fear mode right now that she'll meet someone.
I realize there is nothing I can do, but I can definately feel my adrenaline pumping. Like I'm about to lose her for good.
You can't control who she meets. You MUST focus on detaching. Really. You cannot explain the unexplainable. You will drive yourself crazy otherwise. Take the focus off her. Focus on Thornton. The sooner you do this the more relaxed and better you will feel.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
Thornton, I suggest you either "unfollow" her so that no posts show up or block her for the time being. I encountered the same dilemma, and it really helped me to detach.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
Go buy some St. John's Wort at WalGreens. They work for me. It helps me anyway. Seven years ago I went on them during a difficult time and had no problem getting off. I just took one myself and have weened myself to a couple a week, only when I feel the flood coming on.
