I have a problem with holding grudges, too. This was an issue for H and one he specifically raised at BD as why he didn't want to be M to me anymore. I'm still trying to figure out whether it's "holding grudges" or just being wary when someone is untrustworthy. Sometimes I was just holding onto things for the sake of holding on to them, even after H was sorry and didn't do anything in the future to make me doubt him. Other times (like when H wasn't sorry for doing something because he thought his actions were perfectly reasonable and therefore I shouldn't be hurt by them) maybe it's not a bad thing that I didn't "let it go". I don't know? Still thinking, I guess. If you have any tips from IC that are helping you with this, I'd love to hear them!
Me:30 H:29, no kids T:12, M:4 (when D was final) 12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore" 6/14: Separated (I move) 1/15: H filed for D 5/15: D final
