Left Behind Newlywed

[Pluto]

Just had a fairly civil discussion about her plans to move out. She told me she had a place lined up, but hadn't determined when she will be moving out of here yet.

She asked if I intended to change the locks on her, and I told her in no uncertain terms that I did, as I had to protect myself and didn't want her being able to come and go as she pleases.

She became very angry and couldn't understand why I felt the need to change the locks. She told me that if she wanted to clean me out, she could have emptied the line of credit and joint account, but didn't - and that should show some trust.

I told her that was true that she didn't, but that since she won't even tell me where she's going to be living, let alone have access to it, I didn't think she should be able to have access to our house... but if she needed to come get anything I'd be happy to arrange a mutually agreeable time to do so - and that she was welcome to leave any of her stuff here that she wanted to (she had asked previously about this).

I told her that she's done so much to break my trust through all of her lies and deceit over the past few months, that I didn't feel as though I could trust her. I brought up the affair and how long it had been going on as a sign of that, and she told me that it was in the past and to stop dwelling on it. Not sure how this fits for 'script' by a WAW.

Once I confirmed I planned to change the locks after she WILLINGLY moves out, she told me she was going to lawyer up and that I'd have to go through her lawyer to speak to her about anything. She got very mad about me changing the locks, and started ranting about me having people over who would trash her stuff or steal it (I don't have seedy friends or anything - I'm a white collar 'keeps his nose clean' kind of guy).

I offered to let her store all of her stuff in one of our spare bedrooms, and we could put a lock on the door that only she had the key to, for her peace of mind -- but that I still intended to change the locks.

She made some other threats about lawyers and making me pay for that... but I ignored it for the most part.

Still seems odd that she felt a need to tell me that I should trust her... and to stop living in the past/bringing up the affair.

Thoughts?