If you don't want a divorce, then don't have her served with D papers.
I don't recall ever reading about a M breaking up over the fact H did not do enough housework. Does she have a job?
Women want an emotional connection to their man. You say all she wants to do is watch her shows and smoke. However, she may feel all you do is play your games.
Have you changed the past 15 months of M?
Did you know about her illness before M? Why would the military not cover her?
How long had you known her before getting M? Why has her family stopped having much to do with her?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
