Reach out or stay dark?

[Anders]

I have read DR and planning to read it again. A real gem and a life saver. Good advice about reading the LRT section again.

My mistake last year was being very anxious to find quick solutions and not being patient in sticking with the DB guidelines. I have been learning the hard way about the extent of my lack of patience, with our most recent argument being a prime example.

Planning to stick with DB and this forum instead of bouncing all over the web looking for cookie cutter solutions.

Do you have a good support network offline?

I have found this very helpful for myself, having a very small circle of people whom I trust and who are supportive of our marriage. Before this, I tended to keep our situation hidden while trying to maintain a PMA with my wife. Emotionally, this was not sustainable.

Their advice has been very similar to that on this forum.

A word of advice though: make sure it is people you really can trust and who are really supportive of your marriage.