You just keep trying to do DBing. I strongly recommend the books, the blogging, and if you can afford the DB coaching do it. I needed that personal advice and a game plan. Also, my sitch is grim and the R is over and the M probably done, but there's always hope for me to grow from this experience. I at least can say I tried and did everything to try to save the M. This isn't only for saving your marriage but also personal growth. Keep up the good work. It's critical in the beginning to do what is needed and sometimes if you don't know, it takes a professional. That's why I'd talk to a coach. It really helps.
