Keep your chin up. The 180 isn't easy but often necessary. I'm in similar situation and I feel for you. Some people just can't commit and this isn't your doing. I was told that he was all in and as soon as we said "I do" he became Jykle (and my best friend got to see Hyde). Anyway, I also understand about the moving on already. It's a shock for those of us who weren't in the loop that it was over and the spouse doesn't even want to try. Work on yourself and hopefully you'll be able to move on. I know that I still have hope. It sounds like at least you did some DBing. My spouse was gone physically and mentally so irrational that I couldn't even try. Letting Go and Letting God take care of the spouse sometimes is the best thing for both.
