Magic, "NO.. I am pushing forward on getting our finances settled. I just don't know who to finalize it with.... do I see a business lawyer or family lawyer? Since this is a mutual agreement, do I need to bother with independent lawyers or can we just take it to one lawyer to be signed?"
You answered your own questions above by stating that you have been working w/a mediator. So, if you are working w/a mediator...what ask about lawyers?
You can db and still move forward, it's called let go, detach, drop the rope, etc. and allow the man upstairs to work on him. You give up trying to control and/or manipulate the situation. You turn your focus on to you, your daughter and your life. You've begun to take steps in that direction by going to your women's group and they are providing you w/good feedback.
May I ask you something...what will you do if "YET" never comes?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
