buz 29: NO CONTROL ~ respond vs. reacting.. dates?

[makingmagic]

Tx Georgiabelle ~ I am NOT willing to be stuck... I just get confused between db/standing & moving forward. How do you do both, without looking stuck?


GM23 ~
" he needs to feel a risk". Is not about your self value..... What does him needing to feel something have to do with your self value and protection?....OH, ya caught me!! (slaps myself). I know that sounds bad, what I meant was that pulling back, causes a risk.

What makes you " know" he wants a relationship? I know, because I know him very well.... He needs our relationship. No other will suffice, honestly... No other idiot will accept him, like this. I know he wants this relationship because he has realized that he does want to be in a committed relationship. He has said this. He just doesn't want to "rush" into it....right now.

Ever hear believe none of what they say and 50% of what they do? Absolutely! He's not ready, yet. Key word "YET"... I know its what he wants & that he has come to realize this... on his own. Just not to the full extent yet. I believe that I represent commitment to him. So, when he is exhausted himself out of trying not to commit, he will. However, I am too convenient.

You don't know anything about him wanting a relationship. The only time you will know that is when you are actively in one with him. ....this is true too!!

Job ~ I have not posted whether I required a business or family lawyer (maybe it was someone else??). Regardless, I am not requiring advice from any lawyer. My negotiated deal was managed by a mediator. We just need it to be signed. My dilemma is because its a combined document of personal and business. I don't feel the need to seek 2 lawyers. IMO, this is a one appointment kind of deal. Its already pre-written. Just needs to be reorganized/reworded legally, typed and signed.

Yes.. I want to live my life to the fullest. Knowing that I tried my very best to save my relationship. I don't want to be on HIS hook. I want to be pursued. As mentioned earlier, I am confused with db'ing/standing vs. moving forward... how do you do this without everyone (including yourself) feeling stuck?

Self-value...is my answer.

I am scared to be with another fish... I am scared that a new fish, might be able to change my mind and then I lose interest in my old fish. (weird concept, I know).. I like the old fish that needs some work, but is truly a good person. Isn't it better to be with the devil that you know?

I can love him from a distance. Let go, let God.